Thursday, July 16, 2015

Family in Crisis, That Only Grows Older

There are so many different types of families; traditional, step families, blended families, etc. When there is trouble in the family, it causes a strain on everyone. Crisis within the family can be especially hard on the children. Life brings many challenges with it and we must be willing to make the best of it. The only way to stop a family crisis that just keeps getting worse is to become a transitional character. This is defined as one who, in a single generation, changes the entire course of a lineage. This person can be the one to piece the family back together and the one to make the best of a bad situation. 

Thursday, July 9, 2015

We May Be a Thousand Miles Apart, But I'll Be With You Wherever You Are

What is the purpose behind parenting? As Michael Popkin mentioned that the purpose of parenting is, "To protect and prepare children to survive and thrive in the world in which they will live." This is a very important task, and a difficult on at that. After this week in class I've gained such a greater appreciation for my own parents. I have seen how hard they have worked for my family.

One of the main things that I have been reminded of this week was to parent your children with love. We live in a chaotic world today. We don't need more chaos in this world. As the Beetles said, "All you need is love." We shouldn't restrict our children from doing something just because we 'said so'. If you are going to say no, have a logical reason for it. In class we learned that the more that parents try to control their children, the less they will be able to influence them for good. We should give our children a choice in our decisions. This will show them that you are still the parent, but they still have some say in what is going on.

My appreciation for my own parents has grown so much, especially since I came to college. I know that they are always there for me. College isn't easy. Knowing that I can call them whenever I need is so comforting and I am extremely grateful for that.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Go Hard When the Going's Tough

Name a few aspects that you remember about your dad. My dad is funny, caring, laid back, smart, but, most of all, he is such a hard worker. My dad has this shirt that says "Mr. Fix It" on it, and that definitely suits him. He always was working on something around the house. I learned the value of working hard from him.
 In class we talked about a lot of different ways to teach good work ethic to your children. Some include:
-As a parent, work/ do the chores with your children
-Encourage your children
-Don't micromanage your children
-Show that money isn't related to work 
I have seen my parents model these for me in my life. They taught me the value of hard work. I have had to work for the things that I have, and I am grateful for that. It has helped me to grow up and see the importance of working and saving money. 

Thursday, June 25, 2015

It's So Easy To Communicate, How Come You're Not Hearin' Me?

We live in a world that is filled with technology. This can be a blessing and a curse. There are so many great things that have come from technology. It can be very detriment though; especially to our relationships. How many times have you been talking to a friend and then noticed that they weren't paying attention because they had their attention toward their phone? I'm pretty sure everyone has been through this situation. I don't know about you but I get so aggravated when this happens. I feel like the youth of today need to pay more attention to the people that are physically there with them. We get so caught up in how many Facebook friends we have that we forget who our real friends are. There was a very popular video about this very topic a few years that really opened up my eyes.It is entitled Look Up
Look Up
This shows the power of face to face relationships. So many things we say can be misinterpreted because of technology. An interesting fact that we learned in class is that when we text we lose 86% of communication. When you text, you lose the tone of your comment and the non-verbal gestures you send. These are both responsible for 86% of our communication.Technology can ruin our relationships, even in our family. When you are spending time with your families, put down your phone and put your computer away. Turn off the TV and play a game or just talk with one another. You can build such a strong relationship when you try you put effort into your face to face relationships.    

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Starting Right Now I'll Be Strong...Because I've Still Got a Lot of Fight Left In Me

Every family goes through so many different experiences; some good and some bad. Crisis within the family can bring unwanted stress that can potentially be detrimental. I have always had the philosophy that everything happens for a reason. We might not know why something is happening, but there is a reason for it. As time goes on, we may finally see why we went through that trial. With other trials, we may never find out why it happened. 
I remember when I was in high school my family was very stressed at the potential of my dad losing his job. My mom was working, but it would have been harder to get by with just her salary. He ended up not losing his job, but a few years later he decided to retire and peruse teaching. This was a big change for my family, because now we had to live off my mom's salary, while my dad went to school to get a teaching license. During that time I remember noticing several differences within our home, and a little more caution on financial decisions. This is when you need to stop and think, "Is this really worth stressing over?". I believe that life is a beautiful thing and we need to make the best of what we have. In that time of financial strain my family could have looked at it with a negative attitude, but they decided not to. Today I see all the good that has come out of this drastic change. My dad is working on becoming a math or science teacher. This is wonderful news for the school he is teaching at, because their math and science departments need work. I went to that high school and the only reason I passed my junior year math class is because of my dad. He is such a great teacher and he will be such a wonderful addition to the high school. Another positive aspect that I've seen is that it has brought him and my little brother even closer. My family has always been close to start off with, but it seems like the two have bonded over science projects. I will call over the weekend and hear about all the cool science projects they built together. Everything in our lives happens for a reason, and we have the power to decide how we are going to view a certain trial.  
My mind revolves around song lyrics (If you haven't been able to tell yet). A great song about fighting and overcoming trials is Fight Song by Rachel Platten. It shows that if you have the dedication, you can overcome anything.
Fight Song    

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Take My Heart, But Please Don't Break It

Fidelity...what does it mean? In class we came up with a few synonyms; faithfulness, loyalty, and consistency. Fidelity in marriage is such a vital aspect. Your spouse should be your number one, your best friend, your world! In Genesis 2:24 it says that man should cleave unto his wife, and nothing else. Does this mean that if you are faithful in your marriage, everything will be peachy? Definitely not, but take a look around you; what is perfect? The best marriages have flaws; you have to work together with your spouse to accept your flaws and try to improve them. My teacher Michael Williams, a marriage family therapist, gave us some valuable advice during class; "Go to great, great lengths to protect your marriage." This is your soulmate; someone who you should love! You must remember to be mindful. Put yourself in their shoes when things go wrong. Be engaged in their life and in your conversations with them. Remember why you decided to marry your sweetheart in the first place. Show them your love!

Friday, May 29, 2015

What is Love? Baby Don't Hurt Me!

What is love? How would you define it? It is one of those words we use a lot, but find it hard to define. Love to me is when your liking for someone or something grows into a stronger emotion. How do we begin to love a certain individual? The most common way of falling in love is to start dating. Dating standards have changed so much throughout history. Today a date is usually defined as going out with someone you have an interest in. The date is usually planned and paid for. If you get to know each other and the date goes well, you usually end up going on another date. How do you get to know someone? We learned in class that is is a combination of time spent together, the amount of talking you do, and how often you are together. As you get to know someone better, you might tend to begin to have stronger feelings for them; maybe even love!